It was interesting today in daygame that I allowed myself to be a lot nicer, much less of the flirty eyes and just a really warm friendly vibe. I know a lot of the coaching out there says to get away from that and I don’t disagree, but I’m not that nice and certainly don’t suffer from Mr nice guy.
I rarely, if ever, get friend-zoned and it’s easy enough for me to turn it up when I want to. I haven’t yet got the body language of a confident seducer, because I am not, so when I try and play that role I think I just come across as sleazy. I am not at all the provider, but I am still not yet the “lover”. I am just a friendly guy who wants to have good interactions with women and get laid.
With my new mindset I got really good responses and even if I was wasting my time on dead ends, it wasn’t really wasted time because I was practicing my interactions with women and trying to get them to hook. Stacking assumptions is good and can get you through the first part of a set if the girl is challenging, but if I am friendly with a warm vibe then often the girls are just happy to talk with me. This gets me in set longer and I’m able to practice talking more to girls and trying to get them to invest and ask questions. I need this practice. It’s also a lot more enjoyable because I am getting better responses and less rejection and also being so much more authentic.
Was tired and didn’t want to do daygame, but got dressed and headed off. I saw this really hot women at the lights only 50 metres from my place, but felt the logistics was wrong and allowed myself to weasel out of it. And walked along Melbourne St towards Southbank. I was able to remember that an approach will happen, it doesn’t matter if I allow opportunities to pass me by – there will be more.
I felt a lot more relaxed as I walked towards Southbank and did an approach to a seated girl at the museum which was ok, but her boyfriend turned up. I then approached a twin set of chubby Scandinavian girls (Oh why do girls with great genetics ruin themselves with bad diet?), but that was sort of just for fun. It did get me into a good mood and as I walked along Southbank I realized what a beautiful place I lived and while my eyes were still peeled for girls to approach, the pressure felt really off.
I just relaxed and enjoyed the walk listening to a podcast. Before long I approached the most beautiful German girl who had a boyfriend but loved me approaching, and a girl sitting on the grass who I had a nice chat with, but didn’t hook. I continued into the city and just really enjoyed it, my interactions were light and fun and conversation came very easily. I am getting practice being in front of hot women and being able to be more relaxed and more the witty and confident guy I can be around my friends. I even ended up with a couple numbers.