My daygame and seduction journey has brought me to a point where I am very demotivated for short term relationships that I don’t plan on lasting and even less motivated for casual sex. I am a sex addict and want to fuck every day, but I no longer feel right about using and abusing – even when I tell them I’m not serious, they still get hurt. I am starting to prefer hookers. It’s just so much simpler. And they leave when I no longer want them there.
In my late 30’s I started dating on Tinder and would get the dreaded question. “What are you looking for?” I had no fucking idea. I thought romance should be spontaneous, why would you want to limit yourself to a list? Now 5-6 years later after I fucked over a hundred girls (that I didn’t pay) I have decided what I am looking for. It is now an educated decision that has come about from practical infield experience. I laugh at myself now for having a checklist that I used to be so critical of girls for having.
It is commonly accepted that the relationship you have with your partner is heavily influenced by the relationship you had with your parent of the opposite sex. My mum was attractive, slim, honest, loyal, generous, emotionally unavailable, controlling, and did everything for me. I don’t think I need, or would benefit from, a wife that is exactly the same so let’s dial back the emotional unavailability and control. Not too much. I couldn’t handle someone being too intimate, and if someone doesn’t try and control me a little bit I won‘t feel loved – sick I know. If mum’s an 8 for unavailability and control lets dial those back to a 6. The rest I like.
I also need to look at my previous relationships and see what worked and what didn’t. My kids mum, Tan, who I was with for the majority of my adult life and by definition my most successful relationship was a lot different to the failed relationships. The main difference was I didn’t feel separation anxiety around her. I also didn’t feel the passion and intensity. There were many times I thought I didn’t love her as much as these other more unavailable women. She was a 6 for emotional unavailability, they were 8’s. Now looking back the love I felt for these others was my attachment neurosis – some may say disease.
I was 22 and Tan was 21 when we met. We had a great life for 10 years and then she committed a terrible sin. She got old. When men get old they look like Sean Connery. When women get old they look like Sean Connery (or Madonna – I think I’d fuck Sean). But before that she was wonderful. So loyal, sexy, and did her best to satisfy my needs – not an easy task.
I want the same girl again. But this time I want to find her by design not accident – I got lucky with Tan. I get on best with women about 27-28. When I was 18 I hooked up with a 28 year old tourist from England. I had only fucked girls my age prior to that. Now she was a woman. No matter how old I have gotten, 28 seems to be the magical age. Problem is they won’t stay that age for ever and I want a long term stable relationship. So 25 (preferably 21-22) has to be the oldest girl I could marry.
I don’t plan on being faithful. But I don’t want to feel the need to cheat to get my needs met. So I am going to have to be more physically attracted to her more than the other girls I can fuck – even paid. She is going to have to be a high 7 in looks. I have considered this carefully and I don’t think I want an 8. The difference in the life of a 7 vs an 8 is huge. 8’s are spoiled their whole life. 7’s are considered cute, but still have to earn what they get. Additionally I am an average looking 44 year old. Everyone will stare at me with an 8 and I’ll have orbiters constantly trying to fuck her – some may succeed. And finally I don’t believe an 8 is going to make me any happier than a high 7 that I really enjoy fucking – and smells good.
She has to always maintain a height to weight ratio of max 3.5. Eg. A 153cm girl can’t get above 45Kg. I imagine the conversation going like this with my future wife. “Look, I’m not going to always be faithful. There will be some indiscretions over the years, but rest assured I will be safe and discrete. If you don’t try and find out you will live in blissful ignorance. No other girls are getting in between our relationship or future family. If you want me to cheat less fulfil my sexual needs – they are not that large, and keep under 45kg. I also promise to keep myself healthy. I currently am at my goal weight of 75Kg. I will never get above 80.”
So I have covered attractive and slim. Honest, loyal and generous. These are universally desired traits. That just leaves “did everything for me”. Let’s look at this realistically. I am 44 and want a model attractive wife 21 years old. I’m only likely getting that from a third world country (Maybe 2nd world – Poland, Russia, Ukraine). But the point is she’s not going to be that bright. Don’t blame me, blame God. Her IQ is likely to be comparable to mine when I was 8 or 9 years old. She’s not going to be able to do everything for me. Even if she is the smartest kid in her village she will be about 30-40 IQ point below me – she’s just going to be able to do everything for me I don’t want to do.
Her list of duties, as well as satisfying me sexually, will include cleaning my house, doing my laundry, preparing most of my meals, helping with the more simple and mundane tasks of my business, plus looking after my kids some times. “Sign me up”. All you young ladies are saying. Wait, not only do you get to do all those things for me I will throw some other items in completely free of charge.
I will give you an allowance and most likely your mum too. In Thailand for instance it’s part of the culture for grandma to look after the kids and the parents to support grandma. I like this idea as I can’t see myself looking after babies. I didn’t do it much in my 20’s so can’t see me doing it much in my 40’s. This funding will last until the youngest kid is 16. I give my Ex $500 a fortnight. Even if we are not together I will pay.
I will get you out of your shithole 3rd world country, which you will miss, and then I will take you back there for holidays. I envision a third of your time in Australia, a third in the village with mama and babies and a third travelling with me. And that’s about it. Oh, there are a couple of deal breakers. I will give your mum an agreed salary to look after the kids, something in the vicinity of the opportunity cost of what she would get working at a real job. If you complain it’s not enough and ask for more. I will pay it late. If you keep complaining I will leave you there with her. Don’t talk to me about a career. You have a job. You look after me and one day our kids. As for fidelity I grant you the same freedom as me. If I find out about it I’m having a couple weeks in Pattaya – if I’m really pissed I’ll send you photos of my raw dogging 18 year old’s. And lastly if you steal from me or get pregnant to another man we are done. I will cease to support you or our kids.