“So, do you ever think you will want a girlfriend again?”
Oh oh, red alert, warning signs. She’s starting to want more than I have to give. I want to keep fucking her but don’t want to lie too much. I’ll give a truthful answer with a sprinkle of hope.
“Maybe, but to be honest, I can’t imagine wanting a girlfriend until I want to have a kid again, my kids are now six, nine and twelve and are really easy to manage. I don’t like the idea of a newborn at this stage of my life. And I just can’t see why I would want to settle down with a girl unless I wanted to put a baby in her. Maybe I will feel different in a few years and like the idea of having a baby, or maybe I will meet someone and fall in love so much that I just want to share the experience of having a baby with them.”
She looks at me with a smile that leaves lines in her forehead. She moves her weight from one foot to the other trying to remain calm and emotionally detached, crossing her arms she says “I think a lot of men don’t want girlfriends anymore. Men have changed, in my parents day everyone was married. Guys just didn’t want to travel and be single back then” I look at her, with a smile in my eyes only, for just a second longer than polite, to let her know, I know, she is talking about me in a thinly disguised round-about way.
I reply “I think that men now just have the options that they didn’t used to have. Before feminism society was held together by the glue of the family unit. Women were taught to cook and clean and take care of the house and the kids and in return the men would go out and work. The culture required men get married young because if they didn’t all the good women would be gone. And if they got a women pregnant they didn’t have the opportunity to leave like they do today. Today a man can leave his wife and kids, and while it’s not celebrated, he’s not be ostracized from his community like he would be on the past. This is because women are not left stranded if their man leaves. They have employment opportunities and single mother pension.”
She looks like she is listening and then casually says. “Yeah, I think men have really changed. They seem to just want to be single and not settle down.”
I smile with a hint of a chuckle not quite sure if she didn’t listen or more likely just wants to avoid the ugly truth. I also like the way this topic is going and think it will be a lot of fun to blame feminism for her not being able to find a man to commit to her.
“My point was guys haven’t changed at all, it’s just not possible. Genetically men and women are exactly the same as they were 100 years ago, so the only difference is the external factors. And what I am saying is that the external factors that have led men to want to be single these days are.
- Women are choosing to be single longer devoted to their careers etc. so there are more single women available and men don’t feel like they will miss out if they don’t lock down a wife.
- Women have almost as many employment opportunities as men now, so there is not the societal and cultural need of men to support women like there was.
- Women getting the vote and voting for single parent payments means men can leave and their kids don’t starve.
Can you think of any other factors that might have caused men to change?”
She looks at me blankly and shakes her head. I can almost hear the wheel churning in her mind asking herself if feminism is really responsible for there being no good men left in the world that will commit to her. I look back at her proudly and decide to add some salt.
“I don’t have a great deal of animosity to feminism apart from being repelled a bit by the fat and ugly ambassadors and the sexist and feminine destroying rhetoric they use, but really I should probably be grateful. If it wasn’t for feminism I would be stuck with my ex, working 40-50 hours a week providing resources for her, while she took care of the kids and the home and got to go out to lunch with her friends and pay tennis. Instead I get to spend half my time travelling the world as a free single man. I’m not lonely because there are so many single women, thanks to feminism, and I know how to meet them. I’m forced to pay maintenance, but it’s fuck-all because I have my own businesses and minimize my income. Really, I should be very grateful to feminism. Come on let’s go see Thor Ragnarok”