This is the third date with the Columbian girl I met in the city and tested some of Ross Jeffries seductive language patterns on. Our first date is described here and second date amongst the rubble and last date of this stupidly long post.
I had had a pretty tough week. I was exhausted from the previous weeks 5 dates in 5 days and no lays, but what was even more exhausting was the love chemicals flooding my body getting close to fucking a girl I really liked and could see myself in a short term relationship with me.
I was coming back to Brisbane Friday afternoon and was planning to get some daygame in and then wanted to see her. She hadn’t replied to my invitation text that I sent Thursday saying “I’m coming back to Brisbane tomorrow night. I want to see you. Are you free at 7pm?” So when I was driving back I decided to text her again and give her a bit of extra pressure. “Are we meeting tonight? I’ve been invited to dinner, but want to see you. Let me know”
She replied “Hi sorry. Today I work in the night” We continued to have some text banter as I was driving and then she went quiet again. I wouldn’t normally be so aggressive and broke a lot of the PUA texting rules of over investment, but I could sense how into me she was and was just distrustful of my “player vibe” and was testing me. Since I wanted her to be a girlfriend and really wanted the lay, I though pursuing hard was ok.
I texted at 8.30pm saying “What time you finish work? Come and have hot chocolate with me”. She replied at 11.00pm saying “I am home now” I held off replying till 9.30am the next morning and invited her for a picnic at Southbank. Weeks earlier I had been walking (daygaming) along Southbank and noticed a grassed area on the river where a lot of couples would sit just near the Goodwill Bridge. I thought what a great date spot and bought a picnic mat on Ebay for such an occasion.
She didn’t reply to my invite so I went out daygaming, which I had planned to do anyway. I was having fun daygaming and in a good vibe, she finally messaged me back about 12pm saying she had slept in and would 2pm be ok. I confirmed and got her to meet me at my place so we could go shopping together for our picnic. I was excited because I felt the lay was almost certain and at that moment desired her more than any other woman. This made daygame hard if not impossible, so I headed back to my place and decided to do my grocery shopping. I was still looking out for approach opportunities, but my blood was really going to need to boil to get over my oneitis and this just didn’t happen.
I decided to just embrace this feeling of oneitis. It’s all part of the journey, the up and down emotional roller coaster of game and seduction. I realised that I was going to have more of an issue not getting sick of a woman than getting too needy and wanting to marry them. If I was lucky enough to get oneitis for a week or two I really should embrace it. That made me feel much better.
She arrived and we made lunch and headed to Southbank. I kept it cool and comfort with only small spikes, like holding her hand briefly while crossing the road and then at lunch eating strawberries and teasing her about having a bigger appetite for strawberries than me as a reference to the strawberry fields routine I had played with her.
As we walked we talked about meditation and she mentioned a book she was reading that had a story about a women being hypnotized. I told her that I had listened to a number of self-hypnosis mp3’s and knew enough of the basic precepts to hypnotize her. I said. “It will just put you in a mild trance and make you a bit more relaxed”
Lunch was great and the spot I had chosen for a picnic was awesome. After lunch we got a bit deep and meaningful and she confided that she had been with her last boyfriend for ten years from the age of 16-26 and had only separated from him after she came to Australia. I told her my journey of needing to be single for a period so that when I was in a relationship again I would have the freedom of knowing I would be ok if I was on my own, that any relationship was only part of my life, but I don’t need it to be a whole person. She spoke about her similar situation and relationship with her ex. I went to hug her and she resisted saying it felt weird because she was thinking about him. So made a mental note not to let the conversation steer towards him again.
We started walking back to my place. I didn’t say where we were going and just headed in that direction. When we got to the main road she had to follow me left to mine or go right to catch the bus she made a token effort to say she had to go home, but I just said “go home later” and kept walking towards my place, she followed.
We got home and it was only early, like 5.30pm and I wanted relax and enjoy her company so rather than planning my seduction I just decided to do what was enjoyable. I had the latest episode of “Game of Thrones”, which she was also up to in the series, so we watched that. We did watch it on my bed on my laptop in the dark, but I resisted trying to escalate physically, we were just close and enjoying each others company.
When the episode finished we did start embracing and kissing and I put my leg between hers, but she was not quite as horny as our last date. I think it was the difference between watching Vicky Christine Barcelona vs Game of Thrones. But I had a new trick up my sleeve. I had memorized the words to “Moonlight Drive” by the doors and knew I could sing it in a sexy way. When I was learning the words it dawned on me that when Jim Morrison had wrote these it had to be to seduce a women, the lyrics are so sexual and suggestive it is almost a perfect “seductive language pattern”. So I sung this to her and she loved it and got hotter and hornier and I had her top off which she was a bit self-conscious about and probably a mistake on my part. She wouldn’t let my put my hand down her pants like she had allowed last time and eventually she told me she was on her period. “Is that the only reason you don’t want to have sex?” I asked to which she replied, “Yes”. “I don’t care” I said. “I’ve got a towel here” but she continued to be adamant that she didn’t want to have sex on her period.
This sort of gave me a more aggressive mindset since in my mind she had just told me that she really did want to have sex with me. But she still resisted my advances and eventually I sort of gave up and decided just to enjoy her company and making out as we were. I started scratching her back and this turned her on more than I imagined and it was all back on again and she was on top grinding me. I decided to try again to escalate and waited till she was as horny as I thought she would get and just grabbed the towel and got the condom out. I thought it was on for sure, but she assured me she really didn’t want to etc. etc.
I was a bit annoyed, but cooled down after 5 mins – this is one of the joys of being 40, and prepared us some dinner. We ate in the lounge room and watched the end of Vicky Christine Barcelona as we hadn’t watched it all on last date. We then spoke for a bit and she expressed her concerns that she thinks I meet many women in Queen St and take them for a drink or a romantic picnic and then bring them home and watch a sexy movie on my bed and sing for them and then have sex. I had to laugh, she really had called me out, more so on what I wanted to be doing than what I was doing. I just agreed with her and told her that I really enjoyed her company and wasn’t into one-night stands and planned to see her many more times.
She asked me how long I was going to do this. And when I said “What’s this?” She said. “Meet girls in the city and bring them back her to watch a movie”. I said I would do it until I found someone that I wanted to be in a relationship with and stop meeting new girls. That might take a week, a month, years, or I maybe forever.
After that I made really rich hot chocolate with 8 pieces each of dark chocolate. I have experienced chocolate being an aphrodisiac in the past with a date at Sun Chiros. Not that I was trying to achieve that, but maybe sub-consciously I was. We had the hot chocolate with cinnamon donuts I had put briefly in the oven and our moods did change a bit. I made a mental reminder of what a great romantic and sexual desert I will make sure I always have on hand.
After the desert I said. “I was going to hypnotize you”. I had all but given up on seducing her at this stage. We had gotten so close and she had decided against it that I thought there was nothing going to get us over the edge until next time when she wasn’t on her period. So the hypnotizing was really only a bit of fun that I didn’t even know if I could do with any effect. When I went to start I thought it will be better if I tell her a story about a 3rd person to take her mind off the fact that I am trying to hypnotize her. So I went into a routine I had created based on my flatmates which I called. “My friend that’s good with girls”
I said something like. “My house mate is really good with girls, all the women love him, and I was just talking with his girlfriend, and asked what was the big deal, why was Josh so popular with the women. She said, that when she first went out with him, that she was sitting there talking to him, and she was looking into his eyes, and as she could hear his deep, slow and steady voice, and watch his lips move as he spoke and see his chest rise up and down.”
Her eye contact was really strong and she seem fixed on me.
“She noticed her own body, she could feel her back against the couch, her arms touching the sides of her body, her bottom touching the seat and her feet planted firmly on the floor.”
I just described how she was sitting on the couch.
“She felt really present and calm. Hearing his voice, watching him speak, she felt a stir in her stomach and then that energy went down”
I pointed to her pussy and touched her leg
“At that point she realized that she was going to be with him. And she knew that whenever he wanted her she would be his”
She didn’t seem any different and said it hadn’t had any effect on her so I sort of forgot about it and we kept talking. Within 5 minutes she was hugging me and putting her tongue down my throat again so I picked her up and took her to the bedroom. She refused to take off her shoes so I put her on my lap and took them of and then she said she had to go to the toilet. When she came back from the toilet she walked into the room, we kissed and embraced and then she went and shut the door, looked at me as I was sitting on the bed, undid her bra from under her t-shirt, took her shorts off and climbed on me.
I went a bit slower now as I figured she had crossed a line she wasn’t coming back from and played with her body and slowly undressed her and myself. As I was entering her and feeling the head of my dick go into her tight pussy I thought to myself “Thank God, what an epic on/off roller-coaster of trying to get it”. We fucked for the next hour. She was as good in bed as I had anticipated and I made her come twice and then came myself. We lay in bed for a bit and then I drove her home as she had an early start and I didn’t want to wake up early and drive her.
My first daygame lay. It was harder work than any seduction I ever remember doing and for many reasons a bitter sweet victory:
It has taken me way longer to get my first lay from daygame than I ever imagined it would. It’s only one lay which anyone could have gotten by accident. Although she is cute, and much hotter than me, because English is not her first language and we come from such vastly different cultures, it feels a bit similar to my Thailand trips where I have this inflated value. I see the writing on the wall as this ending in heartache. I fell into oneitis and just wanted her. I didn’t lie to her because I believed it, but I did say I would be exclusive to her if we were together. I feel this pending doom that she will cease to turn me on once I perceive her body as a normal women’s with flaws and imperfections instead of this perfect beauty I must possess.
Glad I got those out. Now I can look on the positives.
In three dates I seduced a really hot latina woman who had only ever been with 1-2 other men. I really enjoy her company and the sex was pretty good. Now I probably have a girlfriend for the next few weeks or months, which is what I wanted. I will still be able to pursue my seduction goals of approaching and dating women. I learnt a lot. I was able to use all my powers of escalation and seduction and eventually got the lay.