Being single and dedicating myself to become a master seducer, and getting proficient at daygame is something I have doubts about regularly. Sometimes I think it’s just sex and love addiction, rather than getting really good with women. Would I be better off just settling for one woman and putting my energy into committing to monogamy?
Instead of spending so much energy on chasing, and learning how to chase, women, I could invest that energy into my kids, my business, my community etc. Transmute that sexual energy as Napoleon Hill talks about it in his classic. “Think and Grow Rich”
Now, I have the perfect opportunity to do this. I have three kids to a beautiful woman, who is single for now, and who would probably take me back if I was to make some serious changes and commitments. When I am a bit down and doubts creep in I start to entertain the thoughts of going back to her with my tail between my legs.
I feel guilt for not being around my kids as much as they would like, and I feel guilt for following this hedonistic lifestyle choice. I feel guilt for not spending more time working and trying to make money to better support my kids and their mum, and feel guilt that I’m not playing what society considers a man’s role as the head of his family and living with them.
It’s ok to go away for weeks at a time for work, but I’m away so I can get good at daygame and pick up girls in Brisbane city 160km away from where my kids live.
The reality was I felt smothered when I was in a monogamous relationship with the kids mum, she was great and we get on well, she gave me space when I needed it, and didn’t even care if I slept with hookers providing I stayed safe.
My friends thought I had the perfect relationship, but there was something inside me that didn’t feel right. I tried to blame her and say that I didn’t love her in that way and she wasn’t my “soul mate”, but now I don’t even really believe in that shit.
I was with another girl for a few months and I felt a stronger “soul” connection, but that passed and now I realize this is probably just the love chemicals released that make you feel spiritually connected on a “soul” level and as far as I can tell there is going to be a shelf life of this intimate feeling from anyone I am able to experience it with.
This intimate feeling is something I really want, and believe it is available for the first few weeks or months of a relationship, but monogamy is not something I can endure long term. I am willing to, but so far it’s not something that I desire for more than a few months at a time.
Yet, out of guilt I would consider a monogamous relationship. Is it really guilt? Or is it fear? When I search deep the real reason I would consider a monogamous relationship is fear of being alone. Sad really, that I can deceive myself so much and feel like it’s my kids that need me, that I’m not filling my role as a man in society and judge myself, where deep down, I know my kids are fine and see more of me that a lot of kids dad’s. Societies’ expectations are not my problem, and the real reason for the guilt is I am scared of ending up on my own.
At this stage of my life I am not a monogamous man, and may never be, yet have the fear of failing at becoming a master seducer and having to settle for a life with one woman and tow the line so that she doesn’t leave me. Because if she does leave me it might be a year or more before I can get another woman, the next one might not be as sexy, or maybe I’ll never find anyone that good again.
Becoming monogamous out of fear of not getting my sexual needs met. How many men on earth have followed the same path? How can I be truly happy in an exclusive relationship if I am there out of fear? Even if I love the woman and don’t really have any desire to be with other women, every time we fight or consider the prospect of separating, I will be fearful because I don’t have the skills to get another women if this one leaves me. And I’m fearful of being on my own and not getting sex.
If I did have the skills to go out and get other women and had very little fear of being lonely then imagine how much of a better lover I would be. I could be true to myself in disagreements, because I knew that if she didn’t love me for who I was and wanted to leave, that was fine, I would miss her, but I would have someone else within the month, plenty of fish in the sea. Imagine how attractive that would be, how many women do you think would leave a man like that. That’s the man I want to be.
1000 Daygame Approaches
Single life and daygame can be hard especially at the beginning where I am not getting lays let alone any short-term relationships. But I will persist. I am up to 180 approaches and have made a commitment to myself to do 1000.
I have heard a lot of praise for daygame from the “guru’s”. If it’s not for me and I fail there is always Thai and Philippine game, which I know is easy, or maybe I will even tow the line with one woman and give her my balls to keep in a little box on the mantle piece. But I can only say daygame is not for me if I have given it a good shot. And I think 1000 approaches is a good shot.