I have now done over 250 approaches and not really seeing a linear improvement and have decided to get a bit more structured in my training and treat daygame a bit more serious. I am going to set myself some exercises and record how they go on this blog.
The Virtual Approach
I have heard from variations of this idea from Nick Krauser and Yad and that is to do virtual approaches and stack assumptions about a girl without actually approaching her. I am going to choose a nice cool spot where I can sit and have visual access to hot women, there are a number of food courts in the city, so any of those should be fine. I will take my laptop and write what I would say if I was really approaching but from the safety and security of my laptop.
When I first heard this, I thought it sounded like a good idea, but also thought if I was going to invest that time into daygame, then I might as well be doing real daygame. And to some extent getting rid of my approach anxiety was the biggest thing I needed to overcome and it was good to spend my time out in the field approaching. But now I have done that and recognize that I can only do so many approaches before my energy is so low that it becomes a waste of time, I think that this is now a really good way to keep myself out in the field longer without approaching. Who knows, I suspect that it might even excite me and make me “want” to do more approaches.
Doing this once or twice probably isn’t going to get me much better, but if I was to do it say 20 times and get 20 hours, or close to 10,000 words then I think I should see some improvement.
Why I Find a Woman Attractive
Another exercise was “Write down the traits you find attractive in a girl…Train yourself to spot them and understand why you are attracted to them.”
At first I rejected this because it reminded me of the list of the “ideal partner” women make of men and I was confronted with in online dating. Instead I went on instinct and approached girls who made my blood bubble. Why my blood bubbled didn’t matter to me. But now I am thinking if I can write down the reasons I am attracted to a girl, then at the same time I am doing my “virtual daygame” assumptions. I can also write what attracts them to me.
Goal 1: 10,000 words on “virtual daygame” assumptions, teases, whimsical stories about the assumptions I made about them.
Goal 2. 5000 words on “Why I want to lick you all over and put my dick inside all your holes.”