One of the first things I recognized that put me behind the eight ball in getting confident with women was the way I dressed and looked. I had dressed in a conservative way that would allow me blend into the crowd, give me some professionalism as a business owner in front of customers and suppliers, and most of all was comfortable.
I shaved daily out of habit, but mostly comfort, because it got itchy if I didn’t shave. I cut my own hair with clippers to save money and time, and bought most of my clothes from street markets in Thailand of knock off shirts and t-shirts. The shoes I wore were always Asics or New Balance trainers because I walked a lot for exercise and these were comfortable.
I had read over and over that women are much more interested in “your look” than “your looks” so that was the first place I needed to start. Clothes, hair, and body maintenance.
I had seen a lot of guys claiming to be PUA’s had well trimmed beards and read in a couple of the books it turned women on, so I gave that a go. I had no idea what beard would look like, as I hadn’t had one since I was 18, and it was much thinner back then. I was a bit concerned it would be too grey, but I gave it a go and everyone seemed to like it. It was very itchy, but that went away after a month. And now it’s a soft downy feature that my kids and women all like to rub.
I bought some electric clippers and trim it to Number 1 every few days, which I think makes me look more presentable. I read that with women the devil is in the details, and they notice things we men overlook, like jewellery, manicured nails etc. So I imaging the thing on my face right where they are looking is pretty important to be kept as best it can.
Next was clothes. I had no idea. I thought I would just rely on someone elses opinion and walk into a men’s wear store and flirt with a hot chick with some of the new techniques I had learned and let her dress me.
I went to DFO near Brisbane airport and I walked into Politix and there was no hot chick, but there was a young guy who seemed to know what he was talking about and helped me choose some shirts. The biggest mistake I had been making with shirts was getting them too big. So now I have a selection of well fitting shirts that make me feel good around women when I wear them.
I know long sleeve shirts are cooler and more attractive, but I just couldn’t do it. My dependence on comfort was just too great, so I allowed myself the luxury of shirt-sleeve shirts, even though long sleeve is probably better for pick up.
And the same for pants. This is Brisbane and I just couldn’t bring myself to do daygame in long pants, yes it would have been ideal, but it involves a lot of walking and I’m just not doing it in jeans. Even if they do look better, I don’t think a crutch dripping in sweat was going to give me the confidence I needed. I looked at other stylish looking guys in shorts and I figured I could pull that off. I was able to find some Volcum board shorts that are just plain colour and don’t look out of place with a dress belt and nice shirt, so I stocked up on some blue and grey ones.
Next was shoes. And apparently these are pretty big in the value department on how a woman assesses you. If I had to wear some gay dress shoes or boat shoes or some such stupid thing I probably would have, but it was lucky for me that I had seem some other successful daygamers wear trainers.
Thank God. Looking back even if I had bought the gay dress shoes or boat shoes I wouldn’t have got any wear out of them, they would have felt so unlike me that it would have reduced my confidence too much. I found some Adidas and New Balance street wear that are super comfortable and I feel pretty crisp in. Socks, it was important to get low ankle cuts and wear the right colours, black or white depending on the shoe colour.
For jewelry I prefer silver so bough a chunky silver chain on special for not much over a $100 a big fat silver ring for $40 and a high quality knock off omega watch, also silver, but with a blue screen to match my eyes.
All this plus treating myself to a haircut at the barber once every few weeks gets me feeling in the mood and lots of nice compliments on my “look” and a lot more head turns when I’m out and about.