My vibe was not great and I was having trouble approaching. One of those days where I was letting a lot of girls go past with only sub-valid (weasel) reasons. A cute little Asian walked past. I’m opening Asian girls less and less because I have fucked so many of them in Thailand and Philippines and I feel it is so much easier for me and will not help me reach my goals of DG and dating. But her body was just my type, 5’ 6” and about 40kg, face was pretty, but unremarkable and she looked early to mid twenties. “I should just open to get some momentum even if she is Asian” I thought.

She stopped easily and gave me her attention. I was surprised she was Thai, she looked more Japanese, but her strong Thai accent was familiar and makes me very comfortable. She was very feminine and open to me and readily agreed to a coffee another day as she was just on her way to the bus to go to work. She was from Bangkok and here studying English. From what I know of Thailand, the Bangkok Thais that send their kids to university or study abroad are in the top 5% of wealth and share about 50% of the countries resources. I have never fucked one of these girls. I’ve only fucked the farm girls that come from dirt-poor families in the countryside (LBFM).

She replied with only a couple of words to my text of “are you always that friendly?” so I didn’t think it was super on, but did agree to meet me the next day for coffee after her school finished at 2.30pm. I suggested 2.40 and she agreed. She was 10 minutes late and I thought I’ll give her 5 more minutes and then I’m going daygaming. I felt non needy and not even really disappointed. But then she turned up. We smiled at each other and I went to give her a hug but she didn’t really reciprocate. We walked to the coffee shop that was upstairs in the David Jones Centre and was air-conditioned, since it was over 30 degrees outside. I ordered coffees and told her to choose a seat. I watched her in my periphery contemplating where to sit and not liking the responsibility of the decision. I thought it was cute, but ignored her.

She chose the table that was the least private in the café. This is good to show me where she is at and how to respond. After ordering I sat down and she shit tested me a bit saying she prefers outside cafes. My response was something along the lines of teasing her about being from Bangkok and how this weather is cold for her, and that I needed aircon to drink coffee in this heat, and that I’ll take note she likes to sit outside if we go somewhere else. I didn’t recognize it until now as a shit test, but however I said it, I must have passed because she didn’t do any others the whole date.

I sat back and relaxed as if I was in my lounge room and looked out the window, looked around the café, and gave her the opportunity to ask me questions. When she did I would give her attention and then fractionate off again. I ran comfort and asked her about her studies, dreams, where she had travelled etc, and told her about some of my life and showed her photos on my phone. After 20 minutes I decided it was time to spike and started giving her deeper eyes and really quizzing her hard about when she last had a boyfriend, had she ever been with a farang, and what she thought of Australian men. It was like the question game, but only one sided. I was very challenging and she reciprocated very well with submissive, but strong, eye contact, and doing her best not to avoid my questions.

I said. “I know they were tricky questions. I want to know more about you. Ok, you can ask me anything you like now, it doesn’t have to be polite it can be anything”. After stalling for a while she asked me my age and we moved into the questions game. I am 41, she was 23. We finished our coffees and I felt we had progressed enough for a bounce, so I said “These chairs are uncomfortable lets sit over here” And led her to the couch. She sat on the seat opposite the table with me on the couch. “Sit next to me” I said tapping the seat, but she declined. It didn’t phase me and was another good test for me to see where she was at. It allowed me to decide this date was probably going to finish at this café and I could pick up on another day. We continued the questions game and I upped the intensity and asked her “when was the last time she kissed a boy”. Her answer was her boyfriend before she left Thailand, that she had been vague about before. It was now becoming clearer that they were still together, but she was available for an Australian romance. This is my role and one I have done a lot with Thai girls.

Our eye contact become very strong and there were some nice long comfortable but sexual pauses. I would pull away and scan the café to fractionate so as not to be too challenging. I felt there was little chance of losing the frame. She was making it so much easier for me than the date the day before. I was doing the same eyes with Columbia girl, but not getting the same response.

It was my turn for a question and I relaxed and looked at her deeply in the eyes knowing there was a question from my soul that suited the moment best. “What do you think I am thinking while I look at you” I had hit the nail on the head, because that is exactly what she was thinking. I stayed quiet and gave her a hint by moving my eyes from her eyes to her mouth and back up again. She was too shy and couldn’t bring herself to say what she was thinking. My answer was going to be. ”I’m thinking about kissing you” But I said. “I’m not telling until you guess first.” She just couldn’t do it. I knew I couldn’t give in and tell her without her jumping through a hoop and her just imagining was probably much better anyway.

It was nice and intense so I thought it would be a good time to finish up as I didn’t feel I was going to get any further by extending the date. I tested her logistics asking what her plans were and she said she was going home to sleep. If she had said “nothing” I might have been tempted for a V2 and tried and gone for the kiss, but I could tell she had gone as far as she was prepared to for the first date. We walked out together and I kino’d a bit on the escalator saying she was tall for a Thai girl and getting right up close comparing our heights, but she kept a strong distance. We said good-bye and I pulled her in for a hug, she was only slightly more responsive than our first hug and I wondered weather she was just not into me in a physical way – we will see.

She texted me ten minutes later to say “Thanks for the coffee” so I replied straight away. “Do you still want to know what I was thinking?” She replied an hour later “Yes of course”. I made her wait another 4 hours and replied. “Haha. You will have to cook me pad Thai for me to tell you” She had mentioned she could cook, so I had seeded a cooking date for her to cook for me one day, which she agreed to. It would be a bit advanced in the escalation process to get her to come to my house and cook and at night time there are too many people her so she would get ASD like Blonde rock chick so I played with the cooking date and then pushed for a coffee instead:

Peng Bangkok: I never cook pad thai but I’ll try

Micky: What have you cooked before?

Peng Bangkok: Pork basil

Micky: Mmmm that sounds better. I don’t want you experimenting with pad Thai on me 😉

Peng Bangkok: Haha I think so

Micky: My place is a bit busy to cook at night time. We can cook here one day for lunch when you don’t have school. You have school Wednesday?

Peng Bangkok: Yes

Micky: Ok. Let’s aim for another coffee date after your school on Wednesday.

Peng Bangkok: Ok see you on wednesday

So this looks promising. My assessment is she is up for sex, but it will take a few dates. She will need to feel comfortable with and be assured that I am trust-worthy for adventure, foreign country sex. I also need to be discrete, which makes me need to be careful she doesn’t feel judged by my, much older than her, female flatmates.

Second Date 3 Days Later

Sunday afternoon I pinged a few leads for an afternoon/evening date and Peng replied to say she could meet before work. I met her in the city. I didn’t try and kiss her on the cheek this time, but did more incidental kino, I put my hand on her shoulder and said that I would take her to an outside coffee bar since that is what she told me she liked last time. And today was much cooler so we didn’t need air-conditioning. She smiled and accepted my kino. Checking logistics, she only had 30 minutes before having to catch her bus. I flirted with the waitress asking if it was table service, chose the table and made sure I was sitting perpendicular to Peng rather than opposite her. I figured I only had 30 minutes and I needed to escalate and get some traction. I was half right on this but failed on a few points. I may have even blown it.

When we sat I looked around at the street and the people to not give her too much initial attention. This was ok, but I failed to truly relax, lean back and not give a shit. My vibe would have been tentative, and trying to hard. I was also grilling her with questions, when what I should have been doing was vibing and talking about nonsense topics. “I love this time of year, the city is really busy, there is a great happy vibe, people are bringing there kids in to look at the Myer windows……my mum used to take me to the Myer windows in Melbourne. I like the one where they have pretend snow falling, funny to imagine a white Christmas in such a warm climate like this.”

I could have even done some people watching and played a guessing game of who else was on a date and together we could imagine the circumstances of the people around us. Then I could have fractionated off again even given her rapist eyes and said nothing. She held strong eye contact on our previous date and we got into a good bubble with this. I missed this opportunity. Instead I did a kino escalation ladder, which was actually pretty good. I asked her about her job as a waitress and could she carry lots of plates at once, feeling her biceps for strength and then touching her hands and comparing our hand sizes. She liked all this and didn’t pull away so I went for the hair and told her I loved her hair and how black it was and I started playing with it. All good so far, but then I got over eager and went for the kiss, which she declined. It was uncalibrated and too soon. I forgot to do the “What’s the longest you have ever had your hair”. Then I should have rolled off and reduced the talking and just communicated through our eye contact. Then I could have taken photos of us together and kissed her on the cheek in the photo. Then I could of kept my mouth close to hers to hint at the kiss without actually going for it.

Before long it was time for her to go, she gave me a hug this time and I attempted to kiss her again, but again she declined. I think I might have blown, but we will see.